Discover the hidden power of sexual energy and its profound impact on our lives—beyond the bedroom! My journey through a five-year period of abstinence revealed an astonishing truth: our sexual essence is a life force that permeates every aspect of our being, from creativity to personal presence. In this episode, we unwrap the layers of misconceptions surrounding sexual energy and sex appeal, guiding you to the realisation that these forces are not just about physical intimacy but are key drivers in our daily vibrancy and allure.
With an open heart and candid revelations, I explore how tuning into our inherent sexiness doesn't necessarily crank up the desire for sex; it's about harnessing that dynamism to enrich all facets of life. By the end of our conversation, you'll be equipped with the understanding to control and magnify your natural magnetism, learning that sexual energy, like a volume knob, can be adjusted to suit your situation—whether it's igniting your creativity or overcoming personal challenges. Join us for a transformative look at sexuality that promises to shift perspectives and empower your most charismatic self.
Discover the hidden power of sexual energy and its profound impact on our lives—beyond the bedroom! My journey through a five-year period of abstinence revealed an astonishing truth: our sexual essence is a life force that permeates every aspect of our being, from creativity to personal presence. In this episode, we unwrap the layers of misconceptions surrounding sexual energy and sex appeal, guiding you to the realisation that these forces are not just about physical intimacy but are key drivers in our daily vibrancy and allure.
With an open heart and candid revelations, I explore how tuning into our inherent sexiness doesn't necessarily crank up the desire for sex; it's about harnessing that dynamism to enrich all facets of life. By the end of our conversation, you'll be equipped with the understanding to control and magnify your natural magnetism, learning that sexual energy, like a volume knob, can be adjusted to suit your situation—whether it's igniting your creativity or overcoming personal challenges. Join us for a transformative look at sexuality that promises to shift perspectives and empower your most charismatic self.
Back to the show, guys. Welcome, welcome, welcome. How are you? Imagine you can reply. Say something Good. Good, I'm glad you're good, me too. Thank you for asking, oh my god. Anyway, so I'm really pumped for this episode.
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You know my favorite topic. If you don't, you actually don't know because I haven't told you, lol, my favorite topic of all time is the topic of sexual energy, sex appeal and attraction. I know I just said three topics, but they sort of are the same topic. Right, in a way, this is my absolute number one. Like so frigging obsessed it's not even a little bit funny, like it's a little bit worrying. How upset now, I'm just so joking.
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So we're going to learn today all things, all things about increasing your sex appeal. Yes, you, yes you, and the chances are you're already a very sexy person. You're a sexy gal, you're a sexy guy. Okay, because wait for it I'm already going to blow your mind at the beginning of this. We haven't even started, and it's that someone who desires really listen, someone who desires to increase their sex appeal, learn about attraction, sexual energy, is a sexy person. Let's just start there, someone. I'm gonna say that again. I know that sounds a little bit too simple, but really hear it. Someone who gives a crap about being attractive, about being sexy, about being magnetic and having a high sex appeal, is a sexy person. Only a sexy person gives a crap about that, and I want you to wrap your head around that. Let's just start there. The fact that you're hearing these words, you can hear them right now, means that you are sexual, you are a sexy being, you are an attractive being. You might not always feel like that. You might not feel like that at all at the moment, or you might feel like that already and you just want to take it to the next level. It doesn't matter what part of the journey you are on with in regards to your sex appeal and all the things. What matters is that the fact that you're here is already evidence that you are a very magnetizing person, and the only issue you might have is your ability to understand it fully, be in control of it, or you just, like I said, want to take things to the next level. Right, and so I'm really excited for this and I want to begin by sharing the fact that.
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I want to begin by sharing the fact that you are sexual energy, because sexual energy is life force energy. Let's just start there. Let me just blow your mind. I'm just blowing your mind every second right now, aren't I? And so not just that, but life force energy is sexual energy. They're just different words and they're just different expressions of the exact same energy. But so is creative energy. When you're creative, right, even if it's harmless, not even, like literally, when it's innocent. So you're painting something or you come up with a really creative thought and and perspective, this is all the same source as your sexual energy.
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And really the game here of sexual energy and being the sexy person, being attractive, is your ability to be in control of that life force energy, of that creative energy, of that sexual energy. Again, the same thing expressed in different ways and in different situations. We can't always be 10 out of 10, freaking sexual right. That just doesn't make sense and you probably get arrested, okay. But you know there are times when that's needed, where it needs to express itself in that direction and to that extent. But there's situations where you don't want that, where it's more on a creative side, where you are literally creating a baby, which there's the link, by the way, to create life. It's all linking to create life You're going to have sex to create life. Therefore, creation itself is sexual energy. To create the life, you need the sexual energy to create more life force, which is how people are born. And so this is wild. Just by knowing this, just by understanding that you are life force, energy, that you are sexual energy, it's already going to change the game for you. You're so welcome right Now.
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The reason why a lot of people struggle with controlling their sexual energy and controlling their sex appeal where, like, they go through days where sometimes they're not feeling themselves and then, randomly, they'll have days that they're feeling really sexy, feeling really attractive. It's like it just happens. They do experience moments of it, but it's not something that can just do on demand, if that makes sense, right. And so the reason is because people don't know that it's not common knowledge to realize that you are a sexual, you are the embodiment of sexual energy. So if people think, then, that they're not sexual energy, they think it's something that they have no control over, they think it's something external, then naturally you're going to try to find it in the wrong places. And so, if you find it, try to find it in the wrong places. That's the equivalent of you going. What's a really good example?
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Okay, so right now, if you're not watching this on video, I'm wearing a black top, and if sexual energy was a black top, this black top and I remember I am the black top in this analogy if people didn't know that you are the black top, if you don't know that you're the black top AKA you don't know that your sexual energy itself and you're trying to find this black top. You look everywhere in your wardrobe, you go to every store ever. You might find something similar, and it works for a little bit. It kind of gives you the impression of that blah, blah, blah. It's going to be a struggle, as opposed to you going oh, like it's me, like I'm wearing it, it's on me. It's just a matter of remembering that, and when I remember that, I can drive that right. And so when you can actually drive that, it's about understanding that sexual energy is a ever flowing, never ending stream of energy. It's never stopping, okay, ever. Now.
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The reason why people's sex appeal is either really high, really low, or turns on and off is because, yes, the sexual energy is always flowing. Life force is always flowing for as long as you're breathing. However, we do have the power to block it. The same way, when there's like a, a pipe, right, if there's a blocked pipe and water's going through it, the water, the, the blockage on the pipe doesn't affect the fact that the water is being flown to the direction of the pipe going in the vessel, right? Um, this hand gesture is totally like relevant to this conversation anyway. Um, but that's same with with sexual energy it's always flowing, but people can block it.
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But instead of it being a literal blockage on a pipe, in this analogy, the blockage is you are actually afraid of it, you are afraid of what it can do, you're afraid of the attention it can get, or you're afraid of being judged or being criticized, or you know, you simply just forgot how to, what it was like to live without that blockage there, right, and so what happens with people who block their energy, their sexual energy, for a significant amount of time is that just like literally a pipe that's blocked. You tell me what happens when there's a blocked pipe and you unblock it it bursts right, and that's when the sexual energy becomes your enemy, because that can express itself in real life as you coming across too like desperate, you being like too much, where now, this sexual energy has no boundaries, right, because it requires the masculine component, the masculine energy, which is, in this analogy, the pipe, to keep it grounded to, to keep it organized and in flow and not messy. Right, it needs somewhere, a vessel to go through. Well, it doesn't get messy in that way. And so when you can understand how the mechanism behind sexual energy, you get to increase your sex appeal, you get to be in charge of it. You don't just get to be in charge of your attraction, your sex appeal, how sexy you are, how good you feel about yourself. Remember, this same energy that's flowing, this same water that's flowing through the pipe, the vessel we call you and your body, is creative energy, it's life force energy, it's healing energy, and so just knowing this and having this awareness is going to change the game for you.
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Now, now that you know that we can continue by understanding that the way that you feel about yourself okay, this is going back to the blockage, the blockage again going back to the pipe that's that's blocked. You are, you are the sexual energy that you're trying to connect to. You want to feel more attractive, all the things when you actually can, you actually imagine that you were looking at this pipe and there's this beautiful, never-ending stream of water, which is sexual energy, that's constantly flowing. If you start looking at it and judging it and saying, oh, you float too much, or like you get too much H2O, I don't know, you start criticizing it. You don't feel good about this water that's flowing. Well, that's exactly right. You're going to block it, right? You're not going to want anything to do with it, you're judging it.
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The reason why I'm bringing this up is because your sex appeal now this is now we're getting practical here. We're stepping out of analogies now. Um, but the practical level of this is realizing that how you feel about yourself okay when you're alone is how effective you are in your creative energy and your sexual energy, aka how attractive you are, attractive you are, how sexy you are and how much of a sex appeal you have. If, when you're alone, you feel disgusting, like gross as hell, then you're not going to feel sexy. You're going to block yourself and then, when you do, when that pipe does burst again, it's going to come across really desperate, really messy. It's not like a sexy level of feeling hot. It's very unattractive. It's because there's not enough balance. It's happening because that that stream of energy, of your sexual energy, isn't made so that it can just be exploded randomly. It's made to constantly be in flow and in motion and all you got to do is learn how to put the brakes on so it slows down, to bring it up when you need to. That's what we want to do here. You need to be able to learn how to control that, and you can control that by really just getting really connected to your body, feeling safer in your body, like it's sexual energy, and feeling sexy. Please write this down, it's gonna blow your mind. It's completely directly correlated with how relaxed and present you know how to be. Okay. So when you can learn to regulate your nervous system, when you can get in control and master your ability to be present, your ability to be calm, your ability to live in the now, that same skill is going to give you the ability to drive and be in control of your sex appeal, which means you can have a very high sex appeal and not even have to act on it. Means you can have a very high sex appeal and not even have to act on it. Okay, just putting it out there.
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I haven't had intercourse for like five years, if not more. I'm losing count of the years yet no one would really pick that up. In fact, when I've actually told people because I'm quite open about it people are shocked and, like the people who are comfortable to actually say their thoughts around me, they'll say things like but I don't believe you, like, you're very, like playful, you're flirty, you're very sexy, you know, and like, oh, thank you, stop it, I know anyway. And they're confused, and I get why they're confused. It's just that it's because people think that sexual energy means intercourse and that's just not true. In fact, people who are so embodied in their sexual energy, like me, like I have a very high sex appeal, like I'm blowing up steam up my ass. But it's just facts, right? I'm just like right, um, if I'm not gonna compliment myself, who will? Um, people who are like me, who just live in that sexual energy, we don't really crave sex as much because we're literally living embodiment of it. There's of like.
Speaker 1:
I'm not saying that it's healthy to always, never to be abstinent. Yeah, abstinent for five years. I have my own personal reasons for that, right, but what I'm saying is that when I'm out of abstinence, um, and when I get to a committed relationship, for instance. Um, I'm obviously going to express myself sexually with my partner, obviously right. But what I'm saying is that I don't need it to feel sexy. I don't need it to feel really just. You know that feeling of why everyone's obsessed with the concept of sex itself. I don't need the act, the itself, to feel it. I am it.
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So when I do do it right, I am really good at it and I really enjoy it, despite my issues, like I've got actual performance anxiety. I know women people don't realize women can have sexual performance dysfunction, but that's because of my traumas that I'm working through. Do you know what I mean? But when I'm not in that trauma state, oh my God, traumas that I'm working through, do you know what I mean? But when I'm not in that trauma state, oh my god, I've been told just very seductive, right it just, it is what it is and it's because of this one thing that we're learning about. It's because sexual energy, sex appeal, it's not really about intercourse.
Speaker 1:
Intercourse is just one way to express that energy, just one, seriously. It's one out of out of hundreds, honestly, because you creating art, you painting a picture, that's the same energy. It just expressed itself without the intercourse it's. But the same energy and the way that you and me can really be in charge of our sex appeal, raise it, increase it, take it to the next level, is getting really good at feeling the same level of pleasure and and almost high and and presence and relaxation when you're going about your day-to-day life, pleasure of enjoying your senses through the most mundane, trivial things. When you can do that, honey, move away. Stop it, my eyes hurt. You're gonna be a freaking, you're gonna be sex on legs. All right, I'm serious, and just like when you know how to do a thing, when you can be in control of it.
Speaker 1:
This means now we can actually control it in the reverse, which means you can, in a healthy way, turn down the energy when you need to right, and that's what we want, but we don't want to block it. You don't want to block it. You don't want to block sexual energy, but you do want to learn how to turn it down. You're like all the way down, slow down the speed of it. You can be in control of that. We've got it right.
Speaker 1:
It'd be weird if you were constantly an ever flowing stream of just right, of whoosh. It's weird right Completely. You don't want that, you want to be able to. Sometimes it's a survival mechanism, like if you want to protect yourself. It's a natural survival response to turn it down because you don't want that attention. Sometimes you don't want that. That's fine, that's healthy. Only if you are aware of it and only if you've gone out of your way to consciously turn it down.
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And when the situation calls for it, because you're safe, you bring it back up. And it's not a matter of is my sexual energy on or is it off? It's not like that. Your sexual energy is constantly flowing. It's just what volume is it at? And I want you to start seeing your sex appeal as not this black or white situation. I want you to see it as a volume knob on a stereo. No, I'm never going to grow up, obviously, um, and I don't want to. Anyway. You look at the knob and the volume on a stereo. I can't say that word without laughing about it. Yeah, anyway, um, and it's about are you at volume 10? Are you a volume 50? Are you, you know, when you're around family, turn that volume down to one, obviously.
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When you're with your romantic partner and you're in the bedroom, turn it up to 90. When you're creating something, creating art, creating a business, creating an idea, turn it up to 60,. Right, when you're eating, turn it down to 40, turn it up to 70. Like, do what you got to do, but you got to learn to understand that it's not is it on or is it off, it's always on, and the people who feel like it's off, it's not that it's off, it's that you're blocking it. You're completely blocking it.
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When you block your sexual energy, when you feel disconnected from yourself, when you feel disconnected from your creativity, you are also cut off from your own life force, energy, which is where a lot of people you'll find and it could be a coincidence, I just don't think it is but a lot of people who block themselves off from their sexual energy, their health usually deteriorates. They don't feel as energetic physically, right, you can literally feel it, because it's life energy, it's healing. Yeah, so if we can start understanding that sexual energy and sex appeal, it is not about sex, it is. It is so almost weird how little about sex it has to do with, if you get what I mean, like the actual act. I mean I don't mean sex as a whole concept, I meant intercourse itself. It is wild. It is almost like I said, it is strange, like how little to do it has with it and I'm a living proof of that. You know, like, like I said, I haven't had intercourse in five years. Have I gone on dates in the last five years? Absolutely, have I, you know, experienced myself sexually without the actual yes, like, again, it's not black and white.
Speaker 1:
And if you can start understanding that it's actually better for you to be the embodiment of this energy because, again, sexual energy is what it's creative energy, it's life you to be the embodiment of this energy because, again, sexual energy is what it's creative energy, it's life force, energy. Be the embodiment of it, then you get the good parts of the experience of what people usually seek in an unhealthy way, to get a sense of validation and getting that feeling that I'm telling you that you can have on your own. People feel like they can only feel that level of sexiness and whatever else through the act of intercourse and through someone else, and it's just not true. And if you become dependent on that, you won't feel connected to yourself. You're going to struggle a lot with your creativity, with your sex appeal, with your confidence, with your self-love and all the things.
Speaker 1:
And so what I'm trying to remind you and teach you is to empower you that you are that energy, and so see the act of intercourse and expressing yourself sexually with another person as truly just you creating one thing. The same way you can see creating a song, creating a beautiful meal. They're separate things, right, they're just different manifestations from that same energy. I want you to see the intercourse as that. It's just one other creation you've experienced, and then, when you do it from that place, your sex life is going to improve your actual relationship and your ability to connect with your partner, if you're in a relationship sexually, is going to take shit to the next level. It's not even funny, right, um, and it's just going to improve your life in every single way. Right, and it's. It's.
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When you embody sexual energy in that way, where it's again, it's not taboo, it's not in like the necessarily, it's just sexualize yourself. I meant in the context of creative energy as well, healing energy then it's going to create a domino effect in your life and it makes you the main character. It's main character energy. It's big pussy energy, big dick energy. And guess what, when it comes to the laws of the universe and manifestation you ready.
Speaker 1:
This is when you stop struggling to get your manifestations. This is when your dreams I know this sounds cliche, but this is when your desires start to chase you. You quite literally become a magnet for people, love and opportunities. I'm telling you right now, like I'm telling you you know how many people. I don't even find them, they just find me and I'm like you're amazing, where have you been my whole life? I don't need to do anything. All I got to do is be my truest expression of me, right, and everything just falls into my lap and all the work that I do do, it's coming from overflow, all right.
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So I hope you enjoyed today's episode. Don't worry, I got you. This is not the last episode on this. All right, I told myself this show, it's going to the next level. We're really going to dial down and self-love, confidence, sex appeal, attraction and merging that all, because that's all the compartments and all of what makes up the building blocks of main character, energy and being a hot genius, really paving your own way and and challenging the status quo. This is what it's going to take and we're going to go real, real deep into it. I'm so excited. I would love to hear your thoughts slide in my dms on insta at christina monofari. Let me know what you take from this. Please share this with someone who you know benefit from this episode. Okay, and let's make the world a sexier place together. I've always wanted to say that all right, so much love until next week.