🎬 Main Character Energy

Embark on a journey to discover the transformative power of main character energy with your host, Christina Modaffari, in the latest season of Hot Genius. As we unveil season four, I share the exciting evolution of our brand and the magnetic allure of being the protagonist in your own life. This episode delves into the art of balancing masculine and feminine energies, ensuring our growth stems from both action and experience. I'll also take you behind the scenes of my personal quest for alignment with our brand's voice, revealing the decisions that shaped the show's content and the hard choices made along the way.

Prepare to distinguish the vibrancy of main character energy from the traps of main character syndrome. We dissect the impact of a healthy self-perception, grounded in our intrinsic value, and how it guides us through a mosaic world shaped by individual perceptions. You'll learn to cultivate a purposeful presence without craving the limelight, understanding the universal principle of "good world, bad world, same world," and harnessing the balance between self-importance and humility.

The conversation wraps up with a candid look at narcissism's influence on personal fulfillment and the merits of a healthy dose of selfishness for our growth. I unpack the fine line that teeters between nurturing one's own ambitions and remaining grounded, and how this equilibrium magnetizes what enters our life. Get inspired to champion self-care and perceive your achievements as a beacon for the collective consciousness, affirming our individual roles as co-creators within the universe. Tune in for an enlightening exchange that will have you stepping into the leading role of your own epic narrative.

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Welcome back to this week's episode. I am your host, as always, christina Modafari. This episode is called drumroll, please. Main character energy ah hi. So I'm really pumped for this episode.

Speaker 1: 0:17

As you have seen, this show has gone a little bit of a makeover Hope we love, hope we love. I know I love it. It's coming on to seven months that this show has been out and in the last month or so it has been my duty just to really refine and freshen up Hot Genius Society's brand in general, including this show, just to align with the vision that I have. You know, like I don't know where you're at on your journey, but I'm sure that if you are a creative or an entrepreneur in some way, you understand that the evolution of our vision gets clearer over time and it's something that unfortunately can't just come to you straight away. Come to us straight away, like when it's at the inception of that sort of commitment, right, like it's something that it just reveals itself the more action we put in, and like. If you're anything like myself, who is a former perfectionist, it can be quite annoying to know that that the only way to clarity is truly through doing and through that trial and error, through feeling your way through and, of course, planning is really important and we can definitely put thought into something before we take action. However, I just learned the hard way I don't know about you, but I learned the hard way that there's only so much of that planning and that thoughtful sort of I guess, backing before a behavior, before making a decision, that it can take us. You know like there needs to be that balance of masculine feminine energy in the process of growth and building and creation in general. You know masculine energy meaning like have your thoughts, have your pre-planned intentional ideas, have a structure, create a boundary, create a vision, and then the feminine energy compartment of the creation process is okay. Now allow yourself to explore, allow yourself to be creative and and to flow and just to let things go with the flow. And you know, and so I've just been embodying that in myself, my personal life, but especially my creative life, in my professional life, and so a lot of the episodes you'll see have I actually had to remove and unpublish, probably about I don't know a good 15 or 20 episodes, which is totally fine because it's still.

Speaker 1: 2:54

We still got I think this is episode 35 or something like that I just wanted to keep the episodes that just truly align with this brand and this community. You know, and, as you can see, it says now main character tips, because I was asking myself, like what is it? What is it that makes us really just sparkle? Do you know what I mean? I couldn't put my finger on it for almost seven months, probably longer than that, but you know from memory it was about seven months, probably longer than that, but you know from from memory, it was about seven months consistently, where I was really struggling to, I guess, articulate everything and I'm like, oh my God, we're really talking about main character energy, like that's what everything is and I, I just went with it and it feels good, um and so what better way than to introduce season four?

Speaker 1: 3:46

Yes, I should have probably like led with that Way to bury the lead, christina, but season four is going to be the rebirth of this show, the evolution, and we're going to talk all things main character energy, what it is, what it isn't, what's the purpose of it, why should we have it? Why should we care? How does that affect our lives? What does it mean for our lives? How do we know if we have it or not? You know all the questions, all the things, right, and so let's actually begin by talking about main character energy, okay, and so I think it's really important to not just talk about what main character energy is. You know me, I need to make things as simple but also very clear as possible, because you guys come here and devote time out of your lives to be a part of this community, to tune in on the show, and so I don't just want to be someone who's just giving you know information. That's not what I want this brand to be about.

Speaker 1: 4:46

As you know, if you, if you're new here, well, now you know, if you are an OG listener, then you know that this is what I've been preaching since the get-go. I want it to also be something that you can apply. I want it for you to also feel like you're a part of this, because you are a part of this. Yeah, this isn't the Christina show, because I would have just called it the Christina show. If that's what it was.

Speaker 1: 5:08

It is our show, okay, it's for anyone at all who who knows that they, they have a gift inside of them, or they feel like they can just simply not settle for mediocre, that they know that they, there's more to them and they are dreamers and because that is quite a, I guess, marginalized sort of personality to have, right, like that's why I called hot genius, called my, called the company hot genius society, because it's not something that society usually allows Society at the moment and, by the way, no shade to society like it has its purpose and it's got its good and it's got its bad. But what I'm saying is that literally right now, in the year 2024, society doesn't really have a place for people like us. Us meaning, you know, having like being more creative, really wanting to, to challenge the status quo, being unique and knowing that mediocre is not enough. The change makers do you know what I mean? Like what, what society condemns as weird. I actually want to reframe that and speak truth to it where it's like we're actually hot geniuses, that's just what, it is all right. And society will come in because it's like, well, I'm sick and tired of people like us just sort of having to resort to just being online, and obviously, at the moment, this brand and company is currently just online, but that's for now. Like that's not the ultimate vision. The vision is for it to eventually to to be literally in a place in society where there is a place for people who are so what society call weird, that I call hot genius, that I call bold, that I call brave, that I called creative, that I call change maker, thought leader, right.

Speaker 1: 7:00

And so main character energy is pretty much someone who it will. More so, main character energy in itself is the embodiment of being the creator of your life, taking charge of your own narrative and not letting anyone else not society, not your parents, not your friends, not your family dictate what you want out of your own life. Yeah, that's really what main character energy is. And if you want to sort of link that to movies or a TV show or TV series, I wouldn't you obviously we can't take this too literal, but essentially, when you look at the leading, the leading lady or the leading man of a picture, motion picture, um, there, there are certain characteristics about them, right, where, no matter what, they are fully owning themselves, whether they are flawed or not and they, uh well, obviously cause the movies have to do that Um, they are completely by the end of the character arc.

Speaker 1: 7:57

Usually, the general consensus is that they do end up taking charge of their narrative, like they go through the hero's journey, right, and so, yeah, main character energy once again do end up taking charge of their narrative, like they go through their hero's journey, right, and so, yeah, main character energy. Once again, it's going from being someone who is a who, let's say, to human. This analogy was a supporting actress of their lives, or the extra of their lives, where other people are sort of dictating what to get out of life, like how to live your life and and to sort of fit in in some way, whereas when we can embody main character energy, it's taking charge of your life, it's taking control of the narrative of your life, and it's essentially becoming the filmmaker of your own life, not just the leading character, right, and so I think that that's completely fitting to this brand and what we're about. And, yeah, I'm just I'm really excited for this new wave of just magic and fabulous hotness, right and so, okay. So that brings me to the next part that I want to discuss, actually is that main character syndrome gets really just sort of confused with main character energy. So I just want to break this down and differentiate the two, okay, because it can get quite confusing. I know I even got confused, like. When I saw it I'm like wait, what do you mean? Um? And so let me just break it down very simply for you. So main character syndrome is when people usually like um, look it's.

Speaker 1: 9:21

I think main character syndrome should be a neutral term. Unfortunately, certain annoying psychologists out there have made it this negative, stigmatized label now, and you know what's new. But anyway, main character syndrome is when someone has essentially like um, when, like that personality and that vibe where they are really walking around life like they are the star of the show and they, no matter what, like they have that sort of celebrity, celebrity vibe, whether they are one or not, where things just happen for them, where it just looks like wherever they go, people just bend to their will. It's those people who people may perceive as being narcissistic, potentially charming, um, alpha people, all the things. And so main character syndrome now was like this coin termed by, I guess, pop culture, along with certain I don't know psychologists.

Speaker 1: 10:14

I guess it's not a medical diagnosis or anything like that, but it really is just describing a freaking narcissist now, and it's really annoying for me personally because I just feel like at the moment, um, common common knowledge just seems very unfinished and very it lacks a lot of context because, although main character people with certain traits of narcissism, um, it doesn't necessarily mean they're a bad person and also doesn't necessarily mean they're a narcissist, because you could be a kindhearted person and have certain narcissistic traits and for it to be completely healthy please just hear me out. So what I mean is that, by the way, this isn't an episode on narcissism although I think I should create a whole episode on that because I think that's really important but anyway, what I was saying is that, as an example, most what society perceives narcissism as is someone who's self-absorbed, essentially, or thinks that, um, yeah, like that's the easy way to put it where someone thinks they're self-absorbed, they think that they're better than everyone else, they're full of themselves, all the things. Now, if you're from Australia, you understand that we have another fucking layer to add to that, because we as a culture have tall poppy syndrome, which is so frustrating, right, like anyone who tall poppy syndrome is like pretty much the concept around, like you know, don't stand up, don't, don't stand tall, so to speak, and don't don't shine too much, because you're gonna put everyone else down. Um, so dim your shine, fit in, blend in, don't act like you're better than put everyone else down, so dim your shine, fit in, blend in. Don't act like you're better than anyone, all the things right. And this is to me, just a cultural flaw, because this is completely depriving people of their freedom of expression and the ability to be truly authentic. Expression and the ability to be truly authentic. And, yeah, so in Australia, if we've already got a cultural sort of thing where we sort of like frown upon anyone who believes in themselves and does anything bold and brave, naturally people in this country are going to find very little things quite narcissistic. You know they're going to find someone who actually doesn't put themselves down as narcissistic, and you know. So it's quite skewed and, I guess, very inaccurate how a lot of people perceive what it is to be narcissistic or to be a narcissist, because really the irony is this that a lot of people who think that other people are narcissistic are actually the narcissist themselves.

Speaker 1: 12:49

Lol, right, and so, with this main character syndrome, this is where it sort of ties in together, where people are now turning something that, yes, it can be negative. Potentially it can be unhealthy. Believing that you are the star of your own show yes, of course, it can potentially be something that is not useful. However, it's all about balance and it's all about intention, yeah, and so main character syndrome once again, it's someone who has all those qualities of like, they, they, um, they, they sort of have that energy where the alpha energy that I'm going to call it, um, where other people just seem to bend to their will and they, they're the kind of people who can, who get away with a lot of things that a lot of other people don't get away with, right, um.

Speaker 1: 13:34

But the syndrome part of it is the unhealthy part, I guess, where these people are actually significantly insecure, um, and they are self-absorbed in a negative way, meaning they're actually neglecting themselves, and they are subconsciously seeking to be admired, to create a sense of self-worth, because their self-worth is, you know, derived from other people's admiration of them, as opposed to it being an intrinsic force, you know, a self-love force or anything like that, right? So, yeah, main character syndrome once again, it's a, I guess, unhealthy way to stand out or it's an unhealthy way to own yourself, but main character energy, that itself is neutral. It can be unhealthy, like I just shared before, but it can also be completely frigging healthy. Again, it's about your intention and the way that I separate the two, the healthy version versus the unhealthy version, is. The healthy version is this is that if you can own how amazing you are and see that at the end of the day, you are quite literally the most important person in your world because it's your world, it's your life, right, but you, at the exact same time, although you see your greatness, you see everyone else, no matter who they are, is your equal, no matter what. I don't mean equal in the marketplace, I don't mean equal as perceived value, I meant just equal as a soul. Whereas the unhealthy version of you could say main character energy or main character syndrome is, yes, you do all those things where you're the lead of the show of your life, so to speak, but you have a superiority complex where you think you're better than everyone else that's the main difference, I would say than everyone else. That's the main difference, I would say. And so when I discuss main character energy, I'm obviously discussing the healthy version of this, the paradox of realizing that you are the most important person in your own life because it is your frigging life, while holding the contradiction that just because you're the most important person in your life. It doesn't mean that you're above anyone else, and it's also being able to employ the understanding and the perception that everyone else is also the most important person in their own lives.

Speaker 1: 16:01

There's this saying that I absolutely love. I heard it about, I don't know, 11 or 12 years ago and honestly, it's a very big foundation to how I live my life and it's some I've built the woman I am today based on this. Uh, this quote Don't. I don't remember who wrote it, it's probably Albert Einstein, but don't quote me on that, no pun intended. The quote is this good world. Don't quote me on that, no pun intended. The quote is this good world, bad world, same world. Those six words changed my life Like they truly did.

Speaker 1: 16:35

Like I said, I heard it when I was like 16 years old and it really got me thinking. It helped me see and took me down this path of understanding that, yes, although we live in one world you know, sort of we live in one world, but let's say there's 8 billion people on this world, at the end of the day, because of where the brain works, how everything, how reality is actually completely shaped by perception that we technically live, there is 8 billion worlds. Each person who exists represents a a different world, because no two people ever see the world the exact same way. You can sort of categorize and generalize that people are skewed more towards either viewing the world as quote unquote good or quote unquote bad, but either way it's the same world as quote-unquote good or quote-unquote bad, but either way it's the same world. And so how does this link to what we're discussing right now? Well, it's linking because of the same concept of understanding that, although there is one world, we all perceive the world differently.

Speaker 1: 17:42

And because each time, each individual who's ever walked this planet perceives the world differently, you are then the creator of your own world, regardless of the things that you can't control, which is why you can have, you know, twins, literally twins, going through the exact same thing, and they, they grow up to be two completely different people, or even siblings or whatever else. It doesn't really matter about the details, it's just the concept that it really is us that get to choose what we do with the things we can't control, and when we can embody and master main character energy, then again, that's about being in control of the narrative of your life, realizing your power. Realizing your power by letting go of the narrative of your life, realizing your power. Realizing your power by letting go of the things in life that you can't control, such as other people, other people's opinions, certain things or world events that are happening. Letting go of all those things and then using your energy to be in control of what you can control, which is your mindset, your attitude, your responses, your perspectives, how you show up, how you treat people, how do you dress, how do you walk, how do you breathe, how do you spend your days, how do you sleep, what do you do when things get hard.

Speaker 1: 19:04

This is the embodiment of main character energy. It's realizing and embodying that charisma, that power that we all have, by the way, just needs to be activated, if it hasn't already. And, naturally, when you become and embody your main character energy, where you truly step into your conscious creation power, then that becomes a manifestation tool where, well, people who are being the most authentic, who are being the most fully expressed, become attractors to their desires because, all in all, vibration your general frequency raises, that baseline raises, which means your reality will shift to match the person you're becoming, which is why, once again, you see so many people who things just happen to them, happen for them, and it's like they look like they're lucky, and it's not necessarily luck. They're lucky and it's not necessarily luck. It's more so that when someone is putting attention on themselves honestly even good or bad attention, but obviously if it's positive attention it's better Well, the world has to magnetize towards where the attention is flowing, because energy goes where attention. I mean energy goes where attention flows. I've got that backwards, but you know what I'm talking about, right?

Speaker 1: 20:33

And so there's a lot that happens when we are able to realize how powerful we are, how in control we are over our lives, and that it does not make us a bad person, it doesn't make us up ourselves, it doesn't make us conceited for us to give a damn about ourselves, about the quality of our lives, because in order to be truly selfless, we must first be selfish. Because if you do it in reverse and you choose to be selfless first and and you dim your shine and and you don't, and you're too afraid to shine too bright, then guess what's going to happen. What's going to happen is that you're going to eventually resent people and it's going to make you feel really entitled, and now you're going to be selfish in the wrong way, and so I don't know about you, but I quite much rather be selfish in the right way, first, so that I never have to be selfish in the wrong way, so I never have to be entitled to someone's time, so I never have to resent someone for not living up to my standards, so that I never have to place someone else with the responsibility of making me happy and who I am in my life. I don't know about you, but those people who neglect themselves and are too busy pointing fingers and putting people who are confident um, you know, putting them down and shaming them and calling them full of themselves, well, that very person who's pointing fingers is actually selfish in the wrong way.

Speaker 1: 22:01

That person is most likely entitled. That person is most likely trying, you know, to judge other people and and criticizing other people for not being a certain way, as opposed to someone who, in a healthy way, places so much attention on themselves, cares for themselves, loves themselves, truly takes the time to connect with themselves. That person is filling up themselves with so much effort, energy, love, love and care that there's not even a thought that of being entitled to anyone else. There's not a thought to anything other than just feeling so damn grateful for what they have, while also being excited for what's to come. That kind of person, that main character energy, who's in control of their lives, has a lot more to give other people that when they are giving anyone anything, when they are actually being selfless. It's coming from nothing but love, it's coming from overflow, and when they do give, it doesn't drain them, which is what giving from overflow is right. And it's coming from this place of no manipulation, no desire to have anything returned back them. They're giving because it feels so good to give, because they have so much to give, because they are independent of their energy, of other people's behaviors, of other people's responses, because they've done the work, they've put the power within themselves right. And so, main character energy, it's neutral.

Speaker 1: 23:31

Okay, it can absolutely become unhealthy, but anything and anyone can. It's again about your intention and it's about how you use it. For as long as you see that you are a bright star and you love yourself so much, you give yourself the effort and attention that you deserve and you realize that you are literally not just the creator of your life, but you are the person who has the ability to create whatever you want and feel whatever you want. You can transform in any area of your life, right, realizing that when you do become that person and you also simultaneously see everyone else as equal, as equally important, as long as you don't see yourself as above anyone, as long as you don't have either an inferiority complex or a superiority complex complex, you're fine, you're healthy. That's amazing. And fuck what you know the culture says about tall poppy syndrome. Honestly, it's a load of crap, you know.

Speaker 1: 24:28

And obviously, to utilize main character energy in an unhealthy way would just simply be viewing yourself as better than everyone else, in a way where you have a superiority complex or you have a god complex. That's when you're just. You're just no good. No, I'm joking, no judgment here, but like you're just, you're probably not going to be liked and you're probably going to feel very distressed and you're going to feel unaligned with who you are and that's. It doesn't sound like a vibe to me, to be honest.

Speaker 1: 24:55

Um, and I just wanted to end this episode by saying that earlier I don't know if you remember me saying like that when the law, when it comes to law of the universe, right when energy flows yes, I didn't butcher that saying, this time go me. Um, I was saying how. I was saying how, like, when it comes to putting attention in ourselves that, believe it or not, like, despite popular opinion, even if it's like not the best kind of attention, um, on yourself, like not healthy attention yourself, the the world still sort of to some degree like come to you. It's just like not in a way where it feels good to the soul, right, um, which is why narcissists, a lot of narcissists, get what they want, and it's not because the universe is sitting here, you know, judging what's good and bad. The universe doesn't really give a shit about that. You know, it's universe looks at how do we treat ourselves, where's our energy going and and and what are we thinking? And the universe just flows with that. It's, it's like the way our brain works. You, you say that you're important. The universe believes you. You say you're not important. Universe believes you. Whether that's factual or not, universe doesn't that. Yeah, like, that's why that's the amount of free will we have, that we get to choose these things. We are literally the creators, we're co creators with the universe, right, anyway, as I was saying, is like, if you put, if you, if someone does have a superiority complex, let's say, and they think that they're above everyone, um, and it doesn't cause them distress, let's say so this is this is, like you know, typical textbook narcissist. Well, things are still going to flow their way. It's just that someone who is doing it from a healthy place, when they put attention and energy into themselves, and the universe obviously will flow the energy towards that person as well.

Speaker 1: 26:45

The difference between, I guess, someone who's a bit narcissistic versus someone who isn't is that the person who's narcissistic isn't necessarily getting what they want, what their soul really wants, and there's a lack of fulfillment. And it's a lack of fulfillment because naturally, as humans we are, we have just evolved to be social creatures. We're inherently kinds of species where we genuinely love to help, we love to contribute to a bigger purpose, whereas someone who, um, is doing things out of purely just selfish interests obviously there needs to be it's completely fine to do some things from a selfish level, but when it's too much of a, too much of that, um, too much of anything, is just not going to be hot Right. And so, yeah, too much of doing things from self-interest. No matter who you are, no matter how your brain, what brain you're born with. No matter how narcissistic someone is, at the end of the day, if you're human, you're. If you're not contributing to a greater purpose, something bigger than yourself, you're not feeling connected and grateful, which they don't, by the way there's it's a different kind of um, it's energy on themselves and attention on themselves. Then, yeah, they might get material things that they, that they want, and all the things and certain things might go their way, but on a very surface level and on a very internal level's, a void within them that's very hard to satisfy, um, and it's they're not very independent.

Speaker 1: 28:08

So just wanted to clear that up and explain, like, if you ever wondered, like, oh, like, why is it that you know? Quote, unquote. I heard people say this so much. I'm gonna say quotes because I don't, because I just got, I've got to use the quotes right now. Um, but it's very common for people to say things like oh, you know, bad things happen to good people and like good things happen to bad people, and it's like it's not so much about good and bad. Once again, the universe doesn't work like that. It's just that people who people perceive as bad are usually the ones who were selfish, self-centered, conceited, right, and if you are putting so much attention on yourself, the universe is going to flow towards there Once again, where attention goes, energy flows, and so that's why things will happen to them, whereas, unfortunately, this is so. It's so sad, but who?

Speaker 1: 28:57

Where people perceive what people perceive as being a good person is someone who's constantly self-sacrificing, and someone is constantly self-sacrificing, and someone is constantly self-sacrificing. Well, you can imagine if you're neglecting and abandoning and betraying yourself to that degree and you do it in the name of service to other people and trying to be a good person because you care. Obviously it comes from a good place you can imagine that your attention is never on you. Your attention is always on other people and other things. And well, what did I say? Attention? Where attention goes, energy flows.

Speaker 1: 29:31

Universe doesn't sit there and say you're good or you're bad. Do you have good intent or you're not? Universe goes cool. Your energy is never on yourself. Your attention is never on yourself. Your attention is on self-neglect. Cool, I'm not going to give you anything good. I'm not going to give you any blessings, because you're not treating yourself like a blessing. So how can I give you a blessing? You're blocking the door. Do you see what I mean here? And so, yeah, that's a whole, nother episode.

Speaker 1: 29:54

If you want to actually want me to create an episode to go deeper on that concept of like, how, like the concept of good person, yeah, if that's something you want me to go into, I'd love to talk about that. I think it's very relevant. Just let me know your thoughts, drop it down in the comments below, and if you're listening to this on a platform where you can't drop a comment, just slide into my DMs on Instagram at Christina Modafari and, like, we'll have a chat, anyway, but yeah, so it's a whole thing. It's a whole thing. It's a whole thing.

Speaker 1: 30:26

And if you take anything away from this, just know that there is a healthy way to be selfish, there's a right way to be selfish, so you can be selfless, and that it doesn't make you a bad person. In fact, it makes you an awesome, extraordinary person. If you can stand up tall and not care about tall puppy syndrome and stand out, show up, speak up, be all of you, your uniqueness, be bold, and know that in no way does that mean you're dimming anyone else's shine, you're taking anything from anyone else. That's a scarcity mindset to believe that when you are doing well, you're taking from someone else. That's not true, in fact. When you are doing well, you're actually giving other people the opportunity to do better as well. Yeah, the abundant, the more accurate perspective of look at this is that every time you are doing something good for yourself and you're embodying that main character energy of self-love and confidence and being in control of your life and going after your bold dreams, you are actually shifting consciousness and you are also being the example of what's possible for other people, and that is the greatest gift you could give to someone else, an example of a possibility that is inspiring to them so that they know that they can do the same.

Speaker 1: 31:43

Yeah, and that the only differentiator between it being doing I guess that from a unhealthy place versus a healthy place is this one thing, and don't forget it. It's healthy if you can see that you're amazing while also seeing everyone else as equals, as a soul. The unhealthy way is you see yourself as being better than everyone else. Okay, and that's the only difference really. Obviously there's more nuances to that, but that's the general rule of thumb. So that was amazing. That was so much fun. I really enjoyed this episode. I enjoy them all, but like there's something about this one that just like really hit the spot. So, anyway, thank you so much for being here. I love you so much and we're going to chat next week. Bye.